Comments on: Emotional Wounds Thesaurus Entry: A Parent’s Abandonment

By: ANGELA ACKERMAN

ANGELA ACKERMAN — Wed, 11 May 2016 00:40:39 +0000

In reply to Angela. Good addition, Angela--thank you :)

By: Angela

Angela — Tue, 10 May 2016 22:17:46 +0000

This is wonderful. I would add that another reaction to abandonment is sometimes the need to strive for perfection. This includes great grades, perfect performance, writing tightly with perfectly formed letters and self-abuse for being less than perfect, because less than perfect equals the potential to be abandoned again.

By: mshatch

mshatch — Wed, 27 May 2015 00:35:09 +0000

I can see I’m not alone in finding this helpful. Thanks!

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By: Caroline Sciriha

Caroline Sciriha — Sun, 24 May 2015 14:41:14 +0000

Thanks for this. It describes to perfection what my protagonist is going through and will help me add layers and nuances I hadn’t considered before. I’ll be printing it and keeping it next to me while I edit.
I have found all your thesauruses extremely useful. Thank you for all your help.

By: Diane Turner

Diane Turner — Sat, 23 May 2015 23:09:55 +0000

Thank you for this most timely post. My POV character wasn’t abandoned per se by her parents, but driven away at an erly age by their perspectives (some tied up in the Catholic Church) and inflexibility. In reading through the characteristics you provide here, I find many can be applied to my WIP.
Can’t wait for this to be a fully formed book. I love your other three, by the way. Incredibly useful.

By: DJ Blackford

DJ Blackford — Sat, 23 May 2015 21:00:36 +0000

I love the previous thesauri and have all three of them sitting on my ready reference shelf. I am looking forward to when this one becomes a fully-fledged book as well. Thanks for the work that goes into this.

By: BECCA PUGLISI

BECCA PUGLISI — Sat, 23 May 2015 20:26:27 +0000

In reply to Traci Kenworth. It's sad how common this wound is and how many variations it has. Because of its frequent occurrence, it seems like a good one to include in this thesaurus.

By: BECCA PUGLISI

BECCA PUGLISI — Sat, 23 May 2015 20:25:08 +0000

In reply to Robyn Campbell. Robyn, we don't know what will happen with this thesaurus. It's really a matter of how well it's received. I do think this thesaurus has a lot of potential to be really helpful. We'll have to wait and see how it does :).

By: BECCA PUGLISI

BECCA PUGLISI — Sat, 23 May 2015 20:23:41 +0000

In reply to Carrie Lynn Lewis. Carrie, it also hit home with me, how the same wound can have a profoundly different impact on different characters—largely depending on who the character was before the event and how much support they have in the aftermath. The psychology of this is really interesting, and I've seen much of this proven out in my own life.

By: Traci Kenworth

Traci Kenworth — Sat, 23 May 2015 19:36:50 +0000

I, too, have a character or two who will benefit from this!! In fact, I’ve picked some of the traits you mentioned to go with them.

By: Carrie Lynn Lewis

Carrie Lynn Lewis — Sat, 23 May 2015 18:59:00 +0000

I agree with Robin. This is a fantastic article.

I’ve long been aware of the big lies we believe about ourselves and have attempted to use those lies to create deeper characters.

Recently I realized that two characters can believe the same lie or have the same wound, but react differently.

But I’d never considered just how varied the ramifications can be. Thank you for an excellent article and for my “learn something new” for the day.

Best wishes,

Carrie