Victoriah, I am glad I was able to say the words you likely already know deep down, but needed to hear come from somewhere else. I am wishing you happiness and peace, and am so hopeful you will find it, because you deserve it so much. 🙂

Angela, i would’ve paid money to hear that. I’ve spent so much already, and never heard anything as genuine and real. Your advice is taken to heart. I’ve prayed for a light at the end of the tunnel for years. Never knew I’d get it like this.

I am sorry for the wounds you carry, Victoriah. I don’t like that this post has stirred some pain for you but also glad if it has allowed you to see things in a new way and provided a direction forward. We do need to try and work through the things that have hurt us, even if it is only a tiny bit at a time.

Some wounds I have been able to move past, others I am still working on. Ironically it was in writing the Negative Trait Thesaurus that I realized what one of my wounds was (that I never felt like I had an advocate growing up), and how the past was affecting my present, changing the family dynamic because of certain behaviors I was taking too far (trying to always be on my kids’ side, always going to bat for them), on a path of “over correcting” something done to me when I was younger. I realized this and found a more balanced way of dealing with things, and I think I managed to ensure I didn’t create a whole different problem (them being unable to handle problems or stand up for themselves because I always did it for them) for my kids moving forward.

But each wound is comprised of layers as you well know…we might be able to face the big wound, and in doing so, it lessens its hold on us, but the damage to our self esteem is something that takes time to rebuild. Wounds are insidious, for us and our characters.

So, take your time. Love yourself. But love the world too, and realize that there is so much good out there. Sometimes it is worth risking a bit (when we’re ready) to find a piece of it to find the love and value we all crave to make us feel complete.

Take care,

Angela

Wounds that our own can be conveyed so well in our writing because we’re intimate with how it feels to carry it. Glad this post helped!

I have this wound too. You can get past it in reference to writing. You’re writing for yourself, not one else, and you believe in you.

This wound is the key to my writer’s block. I’ve been so caught up in the mess of it all, and my writing has been hindered by it. The one thing that had gotten me thru this far, is knowing that i can’t control what others think, d,o say, believe, or feel. It doesn’t change the truth.

Hi Victoriah! This wound thesaurus seems to be impacting writers themselves as much as it sparks ideas for their characters! I’m glad it gave you some insight into your own past. The more we know and understand about ourselves, the more we can grow. 🙂

I think this is a very common Character Wound. I think all of us can think to a time where we were not believed, and the shock and feeling of betrayal that goes with it. Sometimes tho, this would is deep, so deep it really affects us on a profound level, and so it is the same for our characters. I would say that depending on the circumstance and personal nature of the event and those involved, this might be one of the harder wounds to overcome.